This will help them be more present in your head and seem more realistic, which can influence the way they appear in your dream. [3] X Research source

When you are first trying to control your dreams, you need to make sure that your crush is the main focus of your thoughts before bed. The daydreaming, the pictures, and the verbalized intentions lead up to your thoughts as you fall asleep. If you have already cleared your mind of any problems or issues you’ve dealt with throughout the day, then your mind will be more focused on your crush. This will fill your conscious and unconscious mind with him and help in your quest to dream of your crush. [6] X Research source

If you see that you are having a hard time, try keeping a journal of the dreams you do have. By writing down what you are already dreaming, it may clear your subconscious mind of those dreams and help make room for the dream you are trying to have. [8] X Research source

Try looking at the details on the back of your hand. These details will be fuzzier in dreams, which can help you realize the distinction between dreams and reality. [9] X Research source [10] X Research source Try to do practical things, such as turn off the lights, or try to observe if things seem weirder than usual to make sure you’re dreaming.

You can also make note of recurring themes or objects in your dreams. These can act as focal points in your dreams to help you become aware that you are dreaming. [13] X Research source You should keep a notepad or journal right by your bed for the easiest access. This way, you won’t have to go looking for somewhere to write your dreams down and get distracted and forget portions of your dreams. [14] X Research source [15] X Research source

You may not have lucid dreams right away. You just need to keep looking for your dream signs and logging your dreams. Eventually, you should be able to recognize your dreams and become lucid while in them. You may be pulled out of your first couple of lucid dreams as soon as you become aware. If this is the case, try looking at your hands in your dreams or spinning around in a circle. These things can help focus your senses and help you stay lucid in your dreams longer.

If you do get them to show up and they don’t look quite right, you can manipulate the figure to change in your dream. Tell them that they need to look better, saying something like: “I am going to turn around and when I look back, you are going to be the best version of ____ that I can imagine. " Try each method and see which one works best for you. It may take some time, so just keep practicing. [17] X Research source